HOW TO ACHIEVE MORE THAN WHAT YOU THINK YOU CAN
A Thirty Day Interactive Journey for Anyone Who Wants More Out of Life
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Copyright © 2016 Elie Klachkin
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First Edition May 2016
Printed in the United States of America
Dedicated with much admiration and love to my children
Oren, Jeremy, Leora
Through the years, I thought I was teaching you, but in actuality, I learned so much more from each of you
“The secret of a positive change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old but on building the new.” - Socrates
States of Feeling and Resourcefulness. 5
Grounding Methods to Lift Our State of Feelings. 8
How the Daily System Works. 11
Day1 - Thought-Feelings Connection. 14
Day 2 - The Source of Our Perception. 19
Day 3 - Subconscious Mind. 24
Day 4 - The Flashlight of Awareness. 29
Day 5 - Default Setting of Our Mind. 33
Day 6 - Overcoming Fears. 37
Day 7 - Ignore and Realize the Opposite. 41
Day 8 - Mental Coffee Break. 45
Day 9 - It’s Time To Put My Happiness First 49
Day 10 - What Is in Your Cup of Memories. 54
Day 11 - First Impression Is Not Always Right 59
Day 12 - How to Supersize Our Souls. 63
Day 13 - When Making a Decision - Being in a Good Mood Is a Must 67
Day 14 - An Intuitive Method to Make Decisions. 71
Day 15 - If a Door Doesn’t Open - It Might Not Be Your Door to Open 77
Day 16 - Feeling Confident to Go Against the Popular Opinion. 81
Day 17 - The Key to Success Is Having a Meaningful Reason. 85
Day 18 - Stop Working for Money. 89
Day 19 - So, What Do You Do?. 93
Day 20 - Ultimate Key to Achieving Job Security. 97
Day 21 - Effective Shortcut to Customize Your Resume. 101
Day 22 - It’s All About One Extra Drop of Self Confidence. 106
Day 23 - Three Principals of Transformative Medicine. 110
Day 24 - Winning Is Listening With an Empty Mind. 115
Day 25 - The Need to Forgive Ourselves. 119
Day 26 - How to Rear Successful Kids Without Sacrificing Their Well Being 123
Day 27 - It’s Time to Let Go. 128
Day 28 - The Law of Action and Reaction. 132
Day 29 - Your Support System.. 136
Day 30 - Three Simple Steps to Move Forward. 140
In Closing. 144
Many clients who I have seen in my practice report feeling caught; held in place by their life’s conditions, or other’s expectations of them, the job market, their own lack of self-confidence, or just general circumstance. But there is a way to alleviate the feeling of being caught in a spider’s web with no way out. Using and being consistent with the tools of self-discovery, one can do the self-reflection needed for change.
What the book How to Achieve More Than What You Think You Can: A Thirty Day Interactive Journey for Anyone Who Wants More Out of Life can do for you is provide you with a framework; a set of inspirational short articles providing examples from everyday life, parenting, job searching/career pinpointing, and other topics. If you follow this framework and do it faithfully, on a daily basis, it will give you guidance, inspiration, a tool for self-reflection and self-awareness (both key to self-growth and moving forward in life) and a way to move forward and not be “stuck”.
This book is not therapy, and cannot replace a trained therapist or career counselor, for those that require that service. However, it does provide a framework to do brief exercises, both in the morning as well as the evening, thus allowing you to reflect on the occurrences of the day and encapsulate and measure the gradual change in your attitude over a thirty-day period. Thirty days really isn’t too long of a time, but it is enough to see the start of a change from within.
I urge you to adopt this challenge and to continue to strive to be all you can be, even with the challenges that may be out there, whether logistical, financial, or otherwise. We cannot regain the time lost in our lives. You owe it to yourself, and to society as a whole, to present ALL your gifts and what you have to offer to the world. Otherwise, it is lost forever. You are a unique individual, and the talents you have to offer are ones that no one can replace.
This book will help you get there. The author has been through his own personal journey, both up and down in terms of career and life in general. With his gift of writing, he is sharing a way out of the continual maze in which you may feel there is no escape. There is. Reading and following through with the written exercises in this book will begin to shine a light at the end of the tunnel of you being “stuck” and start a journey towards a new beginning, not only in your career, but also in your view of yourself as a person.
Congratulations on this new beginning and truly wishing you the best as you move forward into the next steps of your life.
Rita Klachkin, Registered and Board Certified Art Therapist & Licensed Professional Counselor
The purpose of this interactive journal is to offer to those of us, who feel a bit stuck, a method to clear our mental fog and get moving forward purposefully. Each and every one of us is born with a unique set of talents and it is our responsibility to become aware of what they are and have the fearless courage to utilize them as a means of living a fulfilled life.
But, how do we find our true calling? In my humble opinion, as functioning adults, we don’t need anyone to help us find it. Our answers lie within us. By creating a shift in our perception of self and of our environment, we will break the chain of habitual thinking and make room for new and inspiring thoughts to rise in to our awareness.
Albert Einstein once said: “The intuitive mind is our sacred gift and the rational mind is his faithful servant.” I’m not Mr. Einstein, not even close, yet my thoughts are based on my intuitive beliefs and my life experience. They have provided me, and many others, with a feeling of accomplishment and peace of mind.
The interactive nature of this transformative guide is based on following a thirty day system which gradually, day by day, initiates the necessary changes in our level of self-awareness, leading to the desired changes in our perception of self, others and the environment in which we live. Self-awareness is key in enabling us to stop functioning like robots and return to being fully in control of achieving what we wish for ourselves. Within thirty days, our
state of mind will gradually reset to its default setting of clarity. The mental fog will lift and we will experience a noticeable degree of relief.
Once you start, please stay with it. Don’t let the typical urge to come up with an excuse and quit prevent you from the opportunity to realize a shift in your mindset that will enable you to achieve much more than what you think you can. It’s only thirty days and, on a daily basis, it takes just about ten minutes in total to complete. If you must, it’s okay to skip a day or two. But please get back to it as soon as possible. Keep the momentum going. The more days you skip without doing the work, the less of an impact the overall system will have on you. I wish you a wonderful and insightful journey. Let’s get started.
States of Feeling and Resourcefulness
Our state of feelings (our perception of self and others in a moment) is how we experience life; our existence. Based on our circumstances, feelings move up and down, making us love our lives in one instant or hate our lives the next. It’s very human when, in the morning, we feel like we are on top of the world and, in the evening, we feel like we are at the bottom of the barrel.
Let’s define those States of Feeling one by one:
LOVE - Celebrating the complete and unconditional acceptance of myself. “I am so lucky being me.”
HAPPY - Feeling a state of euphoria. “I am having a wonderful time.”
HOPEFUL - Feeling optimistic. “I have faith that I can handle my worries. I can do it.”
ENERGIZED - A feeling of inner strength and the desire to take on a challenge.
RELAXED - A feeling of calm and acceptance of my circumstances.
TENSE - A feeling of unrest, discontent, nervousness and anxiousness.
TIRED - Feeling depleted of energy to deal with life. “I am giving up.”
HOPELESS - A feeling of not having faith in myself. “I am a lost cause.”
SAD - A feeling of regret and shame. Viewing everyone and everything in a negative light. Depression setting in.
HATE - A feeling of abandonment. Frustrated, angry, and having a desire for revenge.
As you noticed, the States of Feeling are presented to you as five polar opposite pairs. Love and Hate (1&10), Happy and Sad (2&9) and so on. Just like two sides of a coin, or day and night, or yin and yang, every mood has its opposite.
Referring to Figure 1 (Interdependency between State of Feelings and Clarity & Resourcefulness) for a visual presentation, on the left you will notice the inverted pyramid which represents, the above mentioned, States of Feeling. On the right, you find corresponding elliptical cross sections, which represent our level of Clarity of Mind and Resourcefulness (intelligence, optimism, mental and physical energy to make right decisions and overcome challenges). As our feelings trend up, the amount of energy goes up, and as we start feeling down, the energy goes down, and with that our confidence in decision making. The
Source of Our Vitality is our State of Feelings, our mood, and is fully responsible for the level of activated intelligence, focus, creativity, productivity, resilience and overall wellbeing within us.
The key point of which to be aware of: Performing any task or making a decision while in an inferior state of feeling does not do you justice. It does not represent your full potential. It does not represent everything that you’ve got to offer. Do you remember what our parents told us before taking a test? “Don’t be nervous, relax my child, smile, and you will ace your test.” They were so right - truly words of wisdom.
Interdependency between State of Feelings and Clarity of Mind & Resourcefulness